C-section- The relief of having one, and now two

Monday was a Monday on a September 2013.  I know not to plan anything on Monday’s, because Monday’s are just plain unplanned, chaotic, spontaneous, busy, & just Monday.

After a long night of very spotted sleep I still woke up at 5a to be at the hospital at 6:30a. The earlyness was due to last minute sock shopping at Walgreens because it had dawned on me how cold hospitals were.  (Which was a waste of time because hospitals give you their socks to put on). Anyhow, so I get to the hospital, & start my induction process just fine.  I was nervous, but glad that things were all going as planned. Just a few things to mention…

  • 40 complete weeks of pregnancy
  • Baby would be born on exact due date
  • I felt confident about my health & the baby’s health progress
  • Was able to get the most basic things ready for my girl
  • Was able to work & go to drill up until my due date
  • Getting induced, but delivering naturally

But then…  14hrs of labor happened & I don’t think I ever got past a 1 or 2 dialation. Nothing was happening. I had contractions, but I could hardly feel them. (Note: Not something to look forward to as they do intensify later on when my water broke.). My Dr asked if I wanted to go home & wait for the baby to be ready on her own. Also, my husband had been gone for most of my pregnancy, & it was only possible for him to be here for my scheduled induction. Not only that, I just had this gut wrenching feeling that it had to be today. There was no way I was going home. I’m having this baby today, & I could feel she was ready too.

We continued the induction process, & finally my water broke. I will leave the pains of labor out because there are no words to describe that pain. Plus, It’s an inside thing with my husband.

My baby’s was head down & ready to come out.  What happened is that she was overly eager, & instead of trying to push with her head out, she was kind of stuck trying to push her face out instead.

All I knew was that I was nervous about natural birth, but it’s what I expected.  Then my Dr said “emergency C-Section”.  I went on a complete blank thought process as people were asking me to choose between an epidural, a spinal tap, & general anesthesia.  I couldn’t understand the difference & had to have them explain to me more than 3 times.  My decision to do a spinal tap was mostly based on having my husband in the room with me, & that I didn’t want to have to think about monitoring my own pain.  I felt so lost & even as I lay on the operating table getting surgery I was still in shock.  I couldn’t grasp the idea of not having to push.  It all became an unknown.  All I kept thinking was that I wanted to hear her cry already.  She is all I kept listening for.  As I lay freezing, she was my focus.

Then… I heard her.  It wasn’t a cry per se… it was a completely unique tune.  I wanted to cry,  & only saw her for a few seconds as my husband was the one who got to hold her & cut her umbilical cord.  As she was being thoroughly checked upon, my relief only lasted a few minutes as I picked up on my Dr mentioning hemorrhage & other small things that were sending me into a bit of panic.  My baby was out & so beautiful… now I was thinking I have to stay here.  I can’t & don’t want to go anywhere.  I want to keep feeling this beautiful love for my beautiful daughter.  I just need to stay awake & have faith.

I fought very hard not to give in to the tiredness. When I was all patched up I could only remember having a groggy conversation with my husband & I think I even apologized for not really listening to him.  Even in the recovery room I was anxious to see my baby again.  It seemed like time slowed down even more so because she was out & I wanted to have my bonding time with her.

The Dr said I had made the right call to not go home & wait. & that’s what I call my first mom moment.

When I finally saw her, I couldn’t, & I still can’t, get enough of her beauty.  She’s such a blessing & there are no words to describe the loving impression.

Now for baby #2!

Today is Saturday… I’m having a scheduled C-Section on Tuesday coming up. 3 days!

Although, sometimes I feel the guilt of having had a c-section in the first place, & now of having chosen one… I just know that I really shouldn’t feel that way.  I’ve had people have a little disappointment in their voice when they hear I scheduled a c-section.  They go on & advise me on doing a v-bac so that I can have a full birthing experience.  Although I know they mean well, I’m sitting there feeling like I owe them an explanation for both.  But I don’t.  First time was an unexpected thing, & now it’s just where my comfort is because of some issues I’ve had since the beginning of my pregnancy.

I’m still nervous about the having a baby process, scheduled or not, it’s all overwhelming.

But… I’m ready to meet my 2nd baby girl!!!

UPDATE: May 2017

I had a fairly quick c-section. Even so, it still involved a lot of stress, being nervous, & anxiousness to meet my baby after. It is always an overwhelming process. Having faith in God is definitely reassuring. God willing his miracles & blessings!

Now all my slurred speech apologies were going to my dear friend who sat & waited patiently for me to come to.

I had another beautiful baby girl!

Both of my girls are different in their own ways, but they’re both kindhearted & just so amazing.

Do you ever notice EVERYTHING about your child?

Of course we gain greater powers of observance & over protection for our kids.  How could we not?
Kids are curious & are having an adventure every waking minute. They are so busy having fun that they don’t notice the small stains on their clothes after a paint session, the small scratches they endure when running around & bumping into things, or take a second to stop & think before sticking non-edibles into their mouth.
I happen to consider myself lucky to be a stay at home mother, because I keep my little girl’s environment clean & monitor her play.  Also, our home is small, so no matter what I always have a clear view of her.  On the plus side,  my little girl likes to sit & play right next to me wherever I go. I can be cleaning the restroom & she will be sitting at the doorway playing with her blocks.

Even when taking precautions such as cleaning & baby proofing everything in sight, I just can’t shake the need to check up on my little girl every 5 minutes or less.  I am comfortable that she is safe in our home, but I think it’s definitely a mom thing that keeps me on edge.

She is my little girl, so yes, I notice everything.

I notice when she learns new words, and how she goes from knocking to opening a door herself.  When she falls I rush to her side, & when she gets sleepy she yawns once & I pick her up for a nap.

I let her be independent in her own way, but I keep a close watch from a distance.

My little girl has me on my toes every step of the way.  She includes me in her adventures, & is the sunshine of my day.

I love my little girl, it’s truly true!

My little star shines thru & thru!

My beautiful wise little girl!